Imagine the following situation: two close colleagues of mine was having my discussion relating to my next career move without my presence. One was giving a negative comment about my career move while the other was backing my decision.
The first one said something along the following line: Why Vietnam? It’s a third world country. Not developed. Isn’t it better if he goes to UK or somewhere developed?
The second argues along the following line: It is not easy to get a job in UK now. Plus, he will learn a lot over there and I’m sure that he could overcome the challenges in his future career as he can take care of himself.
But the second was arguing on my behalf in an aggressive manner until the first person did not make any more comment. She holds her peace and keep it to herself.
Would you be mad after you heard the first person who made a negative comment? A comment that would made you sad. A comment that would consider as putting out the fire for you to succeed. I should, shouldn’t I?
As for the second person, I should be happy to have such an encouraging friend who is optimistic of my next career move, shouldn’t I?
So, is my first friend at fault in making such a comment? Or is the second person is at fault for jeopardizing their friendship?
For me, I’m happy that I have such two friends. The first one is showing signs of concern and caring. The second for having faith in me and wish and pray for my future success. So, I can say that it is no one’s fault at this matter. This situation would have avoided if the first friend of mine would make that sort of comment right in front of my face rather than behind my back. I would have given me my opinion as to why I took up my next job offer. Then this conflict would have been avoided. But I do not blame my first friend. The comment was made out of feeling of concern. Hence, I’m proud and honoured to have such a friend.
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