From The Eyes of An Observer

My friend and I were engaged in a pretty interesting discussion this afternoon. But before I jumped into the topic, let me tell you that what I did was both nasty and kind at the same time. What did I do? Well, I asked her whether she wanted to meet a guy friend of mine whom I know in my previous company. Both of them are same age (late twenties) and both of them are still single. (Don’t cross the border and ask me ‘When is your turn?’.)

As we were at the middle of the topic, she said that it all depends on fate. But isn’t it fate that I’m trying to hook you up with a guy? (Hey, I’m not forcing. But I just feel that her philosophy about fate was somewhere way off and childish. In fact, I think what she wanted was a Miracle, not Fate.) Isn’t it fated that I’m giving her an opportunity? Why she just didn’t grab the opportunity and make it her fate to meet him up?

Then, while I was in the cab today on the way to dentist, I just started to think about the term that they call ‘The One’. The person who fully completes your life. The person that would make your life complete. The one that you will fall head over heels with. The person who has what you wanted the person to have so badly (charming personality, handsome, rich and famous, etc.).

You gave your hope in search for The One so high that you totally blinded with the presence of that kind hearted man who helped an old lady cross the street nor the charming lady who was always beside you helping you whenever you are in need. In pursue of those fairy tale love, you just neglected a love that is realistic and simple.

How many times have I heard a love story that could sell off as a NY Times Best Seller book and with the word “A True Story” on top? I’ve heard of plenty of friend’s story of how they met their spouse. An architect fell in love with an office colleague because she touches his heart with her caring and kindness. An architect who met his wife who worked at a call centre office. An accountant who met a reception in accommodation rented by his company. A young naive girl who knows that the guy is the one when he gave some of his portion to her. They are so ordinary. But they are realistic and they are living happily now. Why? Because they never thought about ‘The One’. Nor did they mistaken Fate for Miracle. All they did was just living their life in a simplicity manner and they let their heart take them whenever they want to go.