An incident that happened today somehow reminded me that I have not let go of the past. Just to make sure that there is no misunderstanding from my friends on what I mean, I think it’s best that elaborate it further. In short, I’m opening up my old wound.
About a year and half ago, I had a dispute with a close friend of mine then who was also my housemate. Both of us rented out a unit of condominium at Bandar Utama. Due to career reasons, we have decided not to rent the unit anymore. As I was the master tenant, I was the last to leave and have to make an inspection to check things out. And to my utter horror, the toilet in the master bedroom that he rented looks as if he have not cleaned it in years. As such, the landlord slapped with cleaning charges to get it cleaned. This was the fee charged by a professional cleaning company with invoice as a supporting document. (But from the stain that I saw, I’m not surprised that it requires special grime remover or detergent.)
Hence, I approached my friend regarding the fee and he refuses to pay. And of course, a heated argument ensues. Who wouldn’t? It’s not my mess and I have to pay for it? He is also reluctant to share the cost and not to mention never helped out in cleaning the house before he left.
We didn’t speak to one another for a few months. Even on the day of a trip, I didn’t want to go because I was still angry with him. Though a proper opportunity (or excuse) came for me to skip my the trip. I was down with an injury on my ribs.
Subsequently to that, we did talk. However, my conversations were more guarded. The friendship was lost then. Any mistakes that he made, I was more quicker to get angry. And the way he treated his friends sometimes made me lost the respect that I had for him.
Now, I can still confess that I have a grudge against him. Though not the physical kind of grudge that involves beating. I think I’ll just be careful when I deal with him in the future. But if I had such a feeling now, isn’t it best to just severe our friendship?
2 Comments:
the basis, or foundation, of any positive relationship is Trust. be in bromance or romance, it's always Trust.
when you lose that Trusting feeling for someone, it's time to move on. without Trust, a Friend is just another Acquaintance, 'someone you know somewhere'. agree?
Agreed!
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